Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose. Ayala Malach Pines, Author, Ayala Malakh-Pines, Author Routledge $ (p) ISBN. Falling in Love is the first book to unlock the mysteries of how and why we fall in love. Renowned psychologist Ayala Pines shows us why we fall for the people we Ayala Malach Pines is a clinical, social, and organizational psychologist and. Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose. Front Cover. Ayala Malach Pines. Taylor & Francis, Oct 27, – Psychology – pages.
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Renowned psychologist Ayala Pines shows us why we fall for the people we do, and argues convincingly that we love neither by chance nor by accident.
She offers sound advice for making the right choices when it comes ,alach this complicated emotion. Packed with helpful suggestions for thos Falling in Love is the first book to unlock the mysteries of how and why we fall in love. Packed with helpful suggestions for those seeking love and those already in it, this book is about love’s many puzzles.
The second edition furthers the work of the popular and successful first edition. With expanded research, theory, and practice, this book once again provides one of a kind understandings of the experience of love. The new edition offers updated references to recent research, new chapter exercises, and “case examples” of romantic stories to begin each chapter.
Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose
PaperbackSecond Editionpages. Published June 26th by Routledge first published August 1st To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other readers questions about Falling in Loveplease sign up. Lists with This Book. Nov 03, Will rated it it was ok. It doesn’t tell you anything you don’t already know: The author is a psychologist, so perhaps it’s not surprising that the data gets interpreted this way. In some sense, I think that she got the answers she was looking for, because the questions and studies done first hand don’t really give an open ended format.
Apr 08, Anna rated it liked it. The book sheds light on the circumstances that affect why we fall in love and the background experiences that shape our preferences and choices in mates. In other words, it does as the title suggests and attempts to address why we choose the lovers we choose, from a psychological perspective. The book is by no means comprehensive; it mainly recommends areas and experiences in your life to reflect on as possible sources of deep pinrs or strong attraction.
It does Interesting and insightful. It does not provide a categorical answer to the “why” in its title, for instance in the ayxla of studies on brain activity or physiology or genetics, revealing certain people are hard wired to choose certain mates with certain physiological or anatomical characteristics or genetic makeup.
It doesn’t evaluate chemical phenomena or blood work or body shape, and doesn’t divide people into categories or assign compatibilities. Neither does it offer evolutionary perspectives on the phenomenon of falling in love. Love remains–by and large–a mystery, as it should be. But the book is, nevertheless, insightful, providing lengthy though not definitive explanations for the inner workings ayaka the human mind and the possible factors which may ripen someone for the experience.
Jan 27, Lisa Agosti rated it liked it. Pines is a reference book for all those who are interested piens studying the mysteryes of love. It includes detailed scientific research results and provides “the big picture” on the love theme from different psychological perspectives from the last century up to date.
I have never found such a comprehensive book on love and I jn the professional approach A. Pines employes, to face a theme that nearly everyone on earth wants to hear abou “Falling in love” by the American-Israeli Psychologist A. Pines employes, to face a theme maalch nearly everyone on earth wants to hear about. As Helen Fisher said, not many of us walk the path of life without being struck by love.
Pines thoroughly discusses all love-related arguments and provides proven data for each one of loce. If you are interested in “Falling in love” and “how we choose the lovers we choose” then you may find interesting a video I’d like to redirect you to. It’s called “The brain in love” and it’s an amazing course on love by Helen Fisher. You can find it on Ted talks at the following link: Aug 27, Sam rated it it was ok.
Nothing you didn’t learn in Psych More self-help than pop lovw, which is annoying. Oct 14, BC Batcheshire rated it it was amazing Shelves: I guess I liked this book for the very reason so many who have reviewed it gave it a lower rating. I was unaware of most of the studies, and enjoyed reading about them.
And just ayalx I began to suspect assigned roles would be its major basis, the author addressed the challenge of evolution in our assumptions of gender expectations and social requirement of their fulfillment. For me, this book was a quiet trove of information, gently affirming my own loneness, without inspiring loneliness.
Sep 04, Austin S. This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. Reviews a wide body of academic research conducted on dating and mating. The result is a list of the factors that contribute most to successful pairing — at the top of the list?
Also includes totally fascinating experiments The experimenter takes a polaroid of maladh man and gives him a polaroid of the woman. The woman never receives any photo; the man receives a pre-selectted photo loe an “attractive” or pinrs woman i. They have a minute conversation, which are recorded and judged for liveliness, warmth, intimacy, sexiness, and sociability. Also ideas that are obvious once pointed as such as: One of the few, which included 60 married couples, showed that the most annoying trait was often an exaggeration, implication, or the exact opposite of the trait that was first described as the main reason for attraction.
In therapy, falliny he asked if I wanted to see his poems and I said yes, he brought poems to the next session. Jun 10, Ari rated it it was amazing. Good scientific reviews on the topics of romantic love and attractions. I admired the scientists who took malavh the fallung to research such intangible topic. Most of the information in this book is quite knowledgeable.
A good book after all.
Jun 13, Ana added live. Sep 24, Mengqi rated it really liked it. Mar 18, Keit Doesntcare rated it really liked it. If I knew about this book when I was a teenager who fell in love with every guy who showed me the slightest signs of affection, it would have helped A LOT!
I always thought that knowing how things work, helps you control them. And even though we’d like to think that love is a marvelous and out of space feeling, it’s not. In fact, learning all the conscious and subconscious mechanisms that make us fall in love is one pibes the first steps in recreating yourself and your relationship for the best. It’ If I knew about this book when I was a teenager who fell in love with every guy who showed me the slightest signs of affection, it would have helped A LOT!
Malacn a fun and helpful read.
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May 30, Sun rated it liked it. Undergrad psychology really does ruin you for any kind of pop science falliny. Most of the content in this book I’ve heard before but Malach-Pines made this interesting because of the variety of quotes about love throughout history and essentially pointing out all the unknown and individual reasons for why people love. Nov 08, William rated it liked it Shelves: Though I don’t like this kind of books, I was pleasantly surprised and actually quite impressed by the analysis of Love she made.
Maybe because I could relate to many examples she gives. Oct 24, Donald rated it really liked it. Any vital, essential human quality can be deconstructed and studied.
I found I knew what this book presented in this manner, on a visceral level, but now, perhaps, I know on a intellectual level. Aug 12, Roberta rated it really liked it. Barbara Griffith rated it really liked it Jul 11, Lee rated it liked it Feb 12, Anuj Malik rated it did not like it Aug 24, Melissawong rated it it was amazing Jul 17, At rated it liked it May 31, fallnig Hicks Ho Ming Lau rated it really liked it Aug 29, Mojtaba rated it it was ok Jan 02, Gregory Davrazos rated it it was amazing Mar 20, There are no discussion topics on this book yet.
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